The patience

Something one is not born with. A skill that takes some years if not the rest of one’s life to figure out and to learn it. Then patience. Patience is not our birthright.

Patience is painful,. If one has not mastered it. Once mastered life becomes a swift road. Patience is not our birthright.

If I could tell a young person a message, is to learn this crucial skill,. Master this excellent skill. For without this amazing skill you will be lost, not able to withstand anything else. The patience.

Self discipline requires patience. Investing requires patience. Raising kids requires patience. Obtaining any qualifications requires patience. Owning/ purchasing anything will also require patience.

If you could pay a million pound for anything to empower yourself, let it be to learn the skill called patience .

This is the first poem of the 15 in self-improvement and self-employment and prayer, so please do stay tuned.

Do it afraid

The Bible says that we should not fear anything because God is with us. Fear means to flight, and so what the Bible is really saying to us is that when we are faced with challenges or that new thing( the unknown, we should not run away from it but face it head on. That is being courageous in the presence of fear.

Do it afraid.

Fear will never be absent.

In this life you will rather make fear your friend or an enemy. But either way we live with it. It is kind of cool to feel scared, sometimes it is a fuel to do something. Use this fuel and you will always get things done and goals accomplished.

Fear of the unknown.

Joyce Meyer says that it is not fear of the unknown but anxiety of not knowing everything. my advice to you, stop! Stop wanting to know every aspect of your life and let God be in control. Take life as it comes and put the rest in the care of God.

Do it afraid.

Live life to the fullest. Are you scared of going on a date alone? Scared of meeting that person? Scared of raising up your voice? Scared of driving, scared of staying alone? Do it afraid. Do it scared. The more you stretch that muscle, the stronger you get.

Face your fears.

I wish you all the best on your journey to improving yourself and becoming the best you could ever be through doing things afraid. Face your fears and live a fulfilled life.

Day 7

Unlearn to learn a new thing.

Maybe what is keeping you stuck and preventing your growth is the false information you have. Wrong beliefs about money, marriage, friendship, work, career and yourself etc can have a negative impact on your life. And you are stagnant in life if you do not challenge these beliefs and that wrong knowledge.

If you need to set yourself free from the bad and wrong things you learnt over the years you have to substitute these with new, fresh and real information. For the truth shall set you free.

1. Do a thorough research

Learn not to believe everything you hear, learn to question things. Do your own research and be sure of something before your let it in your mind and start believing in it.

2. Invest in new sources of information

Buy new books on the subject you are having false information on. Read new articles on the subject. Ask people who have been there, went through it successfully. Note; Never ask advice about marriage from a person who have 5 part time partners. The information you will get most times will not be good for you.

3. Learn everyday

Make it a point to learn something new everyday. When you wake up, take note of the thing you are trying to get rid off, the false information and take it to yourself to know the opposite of that false information. This will challenge you and also expand your knowledge daily.

Day 6

Spring clean your life from laziness

I want to challenge you right now to set up your mind for winning. Set up your mind positively to overcome your laziness and become a deligent women.

* Time is going anyway.

If you there is an important thing that you have to do, but are lazy, let me remind you that the time is not waiting for you. you choose to spend it doing something useful or to spend it doing something useless. At the end of the day it is 24 hours that you have. And 5 years from now, 5 years would have passed, you will be 5 years older. Either your life would have changed for the better or for the worse. The choice is yours.

* The 5 second rule

This is very effective if you struggle with self discipline. You count from 5- 0 and then you get up without even thinking about it, and do what you are supposed to be doing. If you are anything like me you need something to keep your mind from wandering off of the task at hand. This rule is life changing.

* prepare and plan.

I often feel like I get lazy if I don’t know what to do, how to do it or where to start. So if I have a project to work on, I will first start by preparing where I am going to be doing it. Get all the tools ready and plan out where to begin. Break every bigger task into smaller manageable ones.

Consider following

Day 4

Spring clean your life from toxic relationships.

Are you suffering in the hands of your partner, friend or relative. Abuse is abuse, nomatter who it is coming from. Physical, emotional, sexual, verbal abuse, refuse! Walk away now!!

1. They don’t think you are good enough

Do not be with people who are hard to please. No matter what you do for them, it is wrong. You are never good enough for them. Run away !

2. Narcissists

Run away from narcissists. People who are never wrong. People who never take a fall for anything. People who know it all, who deserve it more than you do. It is all about them. Believe me you don’t need such in your life.

3. Brutal honest

They do not consider how you feel, they call you nasty names, belittle you as much as they can. Own up to yourself, you deserve better.

4. You are scared of them.

Do not hang around anyone who makes you scared, if you have to fake who you are for their sake, leave them. You should be free to speak your mind and do you.

5. They lie to you

Lies are bad, and if you deserve to know the truth, then you have no right hanging out with them.

6. They gossip about you.

If someone has a problem with you, they should approach you.

7. Pretenders

These type of toxic people pretend to want to help but instead they are making fun of you with other people behind your back. Run away from them.

Day 3

Self-Spring clean from unhappiness.

Spending the rest of your life unhappy doesn’t sound cute and I hope that it is not one of your goals. But if you are just never happy, maybe this is why:

Lack of self care

– Do you take yourself out ( date yourself). – Do you relax. – Do you eat healthy and get enough sleep? – Do you do what you love? Do not! Do not run errands non stop. Take care of yourself.

Do not compare

  • Yourself or your belongings.
  • Your spouse / kids
  • Do not compare anything.
  • Sometimes comparison is healthy if it going to fuel you to perform better. But if it is going to steal your joy, stop doing it, stop comparing.


Always living in the future? Slow down and breath. Be grateful for the sunshine, be grateful for those around you. Be grateful you are still alive.



  • Bitterness can never give forth joy and happiness.
  • Do yourself a favour and forgive.
  • I talked about this in my other blog posts and YouTube videos,.

Day 2

Self-spring clean your bad habits

Are you constantly doing something you know that is going to have long term detrimental effects on your body, your health or relations.

My story

I have developed this bad habit of sleeping until noon, and working until morning. I know that I am a night owl and I perform better at night / late hours, but I am afraid of what the side effects of my habit may be. Because I constantly feel like I am living in my own world. At 5 am when people are going to work I will be going to bed, and I will wake up around 12pm, only to repeat the chain again. So I don’t like it anymore because it doesn’t bring me peace, I know that I have to change. But where do you begin? If that is what you are asking right now then read on to get 5 powerful tips to break those bad habits.

  1. Know your why

Knowing your bigger why will help you to get the clarity and the consequences of your bad habit b this will make it easier to deal with.

2. Know your goal

How is life going to be without this bad habit of yours?

3. Know how and what you can do differently.

How can you replace your bad habit? What can you start doing today to start working on your bad habit and reaching your goal?

4. Take it one bite at a time.

Don’t force to do everything at the same time, just try break the habit into small pieces you can start breaking now, and move one step at a time.

From my example above here is how I am going to tackle and eventually break my bad habit.

1. My goal is to wake up at 6, but if I am waking up at 12 I will have to start small before I reach my goal.

2. I will start sleeping at 04:00 am and wake up at 11:00 am.

3. Then I will sleep at 01:00 am and wake up at 08:00 am.

4. Now that I have broken my big bad habit into smaller pieces that are actually attainable, I know that if I am going to wake up at 06:00 am I have to go to bed at 23:00 pm.

Even if you are trying to quit smoking, smoke one cigarette less everyday, and tell yourself to decrease the number of cigarettes you smoke everyday until you get set free.

Do not worry, everyone is battling with a bad habit. Everyone have got their own little secret. Keep on taking the small steps everyday and eventually you will break that bad habit. So if you want to know more, watch my YouTube videos about breaking bad habits. Do not go without taking a look at my blog from yesterday “be yourself”. It is day 2 of self-spring cleaning… 5 days to go!! Do not miss out.

Self_spring cleaning 2021.

Be yourself…

Be yourself

If you are tired of living other peoples visions of your life then you came to the right place, today you are claiming your life back. Today you are standing up for what you believe in what you believe your life should be like.

Your goals matter

Your vision and dreams matter, if they are important to you then they are worth pursuing. No matter how crazy they sound follow your dreams.

Find out for yourself

Sometimes you should take that risk, sometimes you should follow your heart. It is ok to fail. Do not be stopped by people who are talking from their experiences and their fear of failure. At the end of the day, Life has its own way of teaching us. So you might as well go a different route than anybody else.

Do you

-wear what you like, what you feel comfortable in.

-study what you want

-marry whom you want to marry

-have 10 kids if you want.

-build your house on the moon if that’s your goal.-

eat where drink listen hang out with who you want

-do you! Just know that for every action there is a consequence. But be yourself and live your life.

I do have other self-spring cleaning blogs coming up tomorrow and for the next 7 days. There are also videos available. Do not let this spring pass you by.

How to spend more time with God everyday as a young woman.

What if you could have that strong and deep relationship with God. Today I share my 6 best tips for having quality time with God

1. Pray first thing in the morning.

Prayer first thing in the morning

Starting your day with God is the best way to get a deeper relationship with Him. It is a good way to get to know God well, to get to depend on Him totally and cast all your cares to Him. So every morning before you commit yourself to do anything, take the first moments and give them to God.

2. Read the Bible

The Word of God

God speaks to us through His written Word most times, and if you are not reading the Word of God you are missing out. After prayer, go to the Word. And then meditate on it.

3. Listen to church services, podcasts etc.

When you are busy going about your day, preparing your kids, doing laundry, you can have a church service playing in the background.

4. Listen to Christian books on audio books

Like the previous tip, you can always carry an audiobook with you wherever you go and you can listen to it anywhere everytime you are free, or busy with something that do not require your hearing.

5. Read Christian books to your kids.

The more you read Christian books to your kids, the more you familiarise yourself with the Word of God.

6. Hang out with people who speak of the goodness of the Lord.

Bad company spoils good character. Hang out with people who speak of the goodness of the Lord, hang out with people who are going to leave you hungry and thirsty for more of God.

These measures will ensure you have/ develop a deeper relationship with the Holy Trinity of God. If you like more content like this please consider following my blog. Fresh blogs to you every Monday. Much love, God bless you…