Category: self improvement, self empowerment and motivation. bouncing back up.
My channel helps people to bounce back up from failures, past mistakes, and life as a whole. the main focus is self-improvement, self-empowerment, and motivating both women and men to navigate through life by bouncing back up and living the lives of their dreams.
The Bible says that we should not fear anything because God is with us. Fear means to flight, and so what the Bible is really saying to us is that when we are faced with challenges or that new thing( the unknown, we should not run away from it but face it head on. That is being courageous in the presence of fear.
Fear will never be absent.
In this life you will rather make fear your friend or an enemy. But either way we live with it. It is kind of cool to feel scared, sometimes it is a fuel to do something. Use this fuel and you will always get things done and goals accomplished.
Fear of the unknown.
Joyce Meyer says that it is not fear of the unknown but anxiety of not knowing everything. my advice to you, stop! Stop wanting to know every aspect of your life and let God be in control. Take life as it comes and put the rest in the care of God.
Do it afraid.
Live life to the fullest. Are you scared of going on a date alone? Scared of meeting that person? Scared of raising up your voice? Scared of driving, scared of staying alone? Do it afraid. Do it scared. The more you stretch that muscle, the stronger you get.
I wish you all the best on your journey to improving yourself and becoming the best you could ever be through doing things afraid. Face your fears and live a fulfilled life.
Maybe what is keeping you stuck and preventing your growth is the false information you have. Wrong beliefs about money, marriage, friendship, work, career and yourself etc can have a negative impact on your life. And you are stagnant in life if you do not challenge these beliefs and that wrong knowledge.
If you need to set yourself free from the bad and wrong things you learnt over the years you have to substitute these with new, fresh and real information. For the truth shall set you free.
1. Do a thorough research
Learn not to believe everything you hear, learn to question things. Do your own research and be sure of something before your let it in your mind and start believing in it.
2. Invest in new sources of information
Buy new books on the subject you are having false information on. Read new articles on the subject. Ask people who have been there, went through it successfully. Note; Never ask advice about marriage from a person who have 5 part time partners. The information you will get most times will not be good for you.
3. Learn everyday
Make it a point to learn something new everyday. When you wake up, take note of the thing you are trying to get rid off, the false information and take it to yourself to know the opposite of that false information. This will challenge you and also expand your knowledge daily.
I want to challenge you right now to set up your mind for winning. Set up your mind positively to overcome your laziness and become a deligent women.
* Time is going anyway.
If you there is an important thing that you have to do, but are lazy, let me remind you that the time is not waiting for you. you choose to spend it doing something useful or to spend it doing something useless. At the end of the day it is 24 hours that you have. And 5 years from now, 5 years would have passed, you will be 5 years older. Either your life would have changed for the better or for the worse. The choice is yours.
* The 5 second rule
This is very effective if you struggle with self discipline. You count from 5- 0 and then you get up without even thinking about it, and do what you are supposed to be doing. If you are anything like me you need something to keep your mind from wandering off of the task at hand. This rule is life changing.
* prepare and plan.
I often feel like I get lazy if I don’t know what to do, how to do it or where to start. So if I have a project to work on, I will first start by preparing where I am going to be doing it. Get all the tools ready and plan out where to begin. Break every bigger task into smaller manageable ones.
If you lack, you will not get anywhere in life. Your confidence is a bridge between where you are now and where you will be tomorrow. It’s either you get it right now or you live to regret the chances you never took.
The feeling that you can do something very well. Sure about yourself.
Are you suffering in the hands of your partner, friend or relative. Abuse is abuse, nomatter who it is coming from. Physical, emotional, sexual, verbal abuse, refuse! Walk away now!!
1. They don’t think you are good enough
Do not be with people who are hard to please. No matter what you do for them, it is wrong. You are never good enough for them. Run away !
Run away from narcissists. People who are never wrong. People who never take a fall for anything. People who know it all, who deserve it more than you do. It is all about them. Believe me you don’t need such in your life.
3. Brutal honest
They do not consider how you feel, they call you nasty names, belittle you as much as they can. Own up to yourself, you deserve better.
4. You are scared of them.
Do not hang around anyone who makes you scared, if you have to fake who you are for their sake, leave them. You should be free to speak your mind and do you.
5. They lie to you
Lies are bad, and if you deserve to know the truth, then you have no right hanging out with them.
6. They gossip about you.
If someone has a problem with you, they should approach you.
These type of toxic people pretend to want to help but instead they are making fun of you with other people behind your back. Run away from them.
Are you constantly doing something you know that is going to have long term detrimental effects on your body, your health or relations.
I have developed this bad habit of sleeping until noon, and working until morning. I know that I am a night owl and I perform better at night / late hours, but I am afraid of what the side effects of my habit may be. Because I constantly feel like I am living in my own world. At 5 am when people are going to work I will be going to bed, and I will wake up around 12pm, only to repeat the chain again. So I don’t like it anymore because it doesn’t bring me peace, I know that I have to change. But where do you begin? If that is what you are asking right now then read on to get 5 powerful tips to break those bad habits.
Know your why
Knowing your bigger why will help you to get the clarity and the consequences of your bad habit b this will make it easier to deal with.
2. Know your goal
How is life going to be without this bad habit of yours?
3. Know how and what you can do differently.
How can you replace your bad habit? What can you start doing today to start working on your bad habit and reaching your goal?
4. Take it one bite at a time.
Don’t force to do everything at the same time, just try break the habit into small pieces you can start breaking now, and move one step at a time.
From my example above here is how I am going to tackle and eventually break my bad habit.
1. My goal is to wake up at 6, but if I am waking up at 12 I will have to start small before I reach my goal.
2. I will start sleeping at 04:00 am and wake up at 11:00 am.
3. Then I will sleep at 01:00 am and wake up at 08:00 am.
4. Now that I have broken my big bad habit into smaller pieces that are actually attainable, I know that if I am going to wake up at 06:00 am I have to go to bed at 23:00 pm.
Even if you are trying to quit smoking, smoke one cigarette less everyday, and tell yourself to decrease the number of cigarettes you smoke everyday until you get set free.
Do not worry, everyone is battling with a bad habit. Everyone have got their own little secret. Keep on taking the small steps everyday and eventually you will break that bad habit. So if you want to know more, watch my YouTube videos about breaking bad habits. Do not go without taking a look at my blog from yesterday “be yourself”. It is day 2 of self-spring cleaning… 5 days to go!! Do not miss out.
If you are tired of living other peoples visions of your life then you came to the right place, today you are claiming your life back. Today you are standing up for what you believe in what you believe your life should be like.
Your goals matter
Your vision and dreams matter, if they are important to you then they are worth pursuing. No matter how crazy they sound follow your dreams.
Find out for yourself
Sometimes you should take that risk, sometimes you should follow your heart. It is ok to fail. Do not be stopped by people who are talking from their experiences and their fear of failure. At the end of the day, Life has its own way of teaching us. So you might as well go a different route than anybody else.
-wear what you like, what you feel comfortable in.
-study what you want
-marry whom you want to marry
-have 10 kids if you want.
-build your house on the moon if that’s your goal.-
eat where drink listen hang out with who you want
-do you! Just know that for every action there is a consequence. But be yourself and live your life.
I do have other self-spring cleaning blogs coming up tomorrow and for the next 7 days. There are also videos available. Do not let this spring pass you by.
What if you could have that strong and deep relationship with God. Today I share my 6 best tips for having quality time with God
1. Pray first thing in the morning.
Starting your day with God is the best way to get a deeper relationship with Him. It is a good way to get to know God well, to get to depend on Him totally and cast all your cares to Him. So every morning before you commit yourself to do anything, take the first moments and give them to God.
2. Read the Bible
God speaks to us through His written Word most times, and if you are not reading the Word of God you are missing out. After prayer, go to the Word. And then meditate on it.
3. Listen to church services, podcasts etc.
When you are busy going about your day, preparing your kids, doing laundry, you can have a church service playing in the background.
4. Listen to Christian books on audio books
Like the previous tip, you can always carry an audiobook with you wherever you go and you can listen to it anywhere everytime you are free, or busy with something that do not require your hearing.
5. Read Christian books to your kids.
The more you read Christian books to your kids, the more you familiarise yourself with the Word of God.
6. Hang out with people who speak of the goodness of the Lord.
Bad company spoils good character. Hang out with people who speak of the goodness of the Lord, hang out with people who are going to leave you hungry and thirsty for more of God.
These measures will ensure you have/ develop a deeper relationship with the Holy Trinity of God. If you like more content like this please consider following my blog. Fresh blogs to you every Monday. Much love, God bless you…
Do you feel like you just never have enough time to do everything you have intended to do, everyday? your To Do list never gets finished. and when it does, you are left drained and unable to do the things that matters with the people you care about. in this blog posts I am discussing ways to boost your productivity without feeling drained and unable to do anything else at the end of the day. you should go to bed feeling happy and content at all timoes.
targeting the frog
The 80-20 rule
This referes to the 20 percent of things that you can do in your day that are going to boost your productivity and cover the rest of the 80 percect that is left. I will you an example. In my To do list is:
record a podcast
take pictures for the blog
write a blog post
Now from my list it can be very confusing as to which one should I start with. But if I were to use the 80-20 rule to make sure that at the end of the day I am productive and I am able to complete the most important tasks. I will begin with outling my blog, this way I will be able to write my blog without a struggle. I now have an outline for my podcast, I am going to use the one I used for the blog. And intead of taking plenty of pictures and deleting and just being all over the place, I now know what my blog is about and I know what type of pictures I am going to spend my precious time taking. there you have it, the 80-20 rule. I did only 20 percent but the rest 80 percent benefited in the process. the 80-20 rule is amazing, try it out today.
2. Targeting the frog
This is called eat the frog, or first things first. This productivity method will make you do the task that you would rather not do at all. That one that you are dreading to acomplish, but you know it is the very important one of them all. Do that one and see everything else fall in to place.
breaking down the tasks
after chosing your frog, you need to break it down in smaller parts. that way you will not feel overwhelmed by the looking at it. take that huge task and come up with how you are going to deal with it. after having the smaller task you need to break them up into smallest tasks that you can start doing now. this is a win for you. after finishing the bigger frog go back into your To Do list and find a big frog. break it down into smaller and then smallest task and before you know it you will be done with the most important taks in your To Do list and if that is not being productive then i do not know what is.
Say you are a mother and you have have guests coming in for dinner. Your bigger task is to serve dinner to your family and guest. Where do you begin?
Look for recipes.
Wash the dishes. Now that you know the type of food you are cooking, you also know what type of pots you need, the trays, and spoons etc.
Chop your ingredients, marinate what needs to be marinated and prepare all the spices and everything you are going to need.
Cook. You are not all over the place, you are breaking down every step and that makes you to have order and as a result have good results. This procedure will make you to be so productive in your everyday life.
Balance is a myth but marmony is a must
Imagine feeling like you have to spend 8 hours with your spouse everyday and spend 8 hours everyday with your kids just because you work 8 hours everyday. Does it make sense? Are you even going to have time to sleep? So lets leave balance out of the equation and tallk about quality over quantity. It is not about the amount of hours of time you spend with your kids, if you are not present, if you are not listening to them and engaging then you are as good as not being there. But if instead you were to take 30 minutes of your time, play with your child. go buy ice cream, or play some engaging game. Ask them how they are feeling and read to them. Then you will really be productive.
Planning in advance is another way of being productive in your days. Plan your meals. Write down the type of food you are going to eat on a certain day. This way you will not have to struggle come cooking time. Another thing you can plan is your clothes or your children’s clothes. Take 5 minutes to do this and save massive amount of time in the morning.
Just like planning, preparing is extremely crucial. But this time around you are taking the meal plan and meal preping. If there is a certain food you can cook in bulk and freeze, do so. There are also more ways of preserving food that i will be covering in a few weeks in my blog. You can even prepare clothes. If you know the weather for the next 3 days, you can take them out, match everything and put them aside. That way, you will have added a few minutes into your day so that you will do some things you enjoy.
We only have 24 hours a day. Whats important is not to complete our To Do list but to focus on what matters most. Follow this advice and go to bed happy with everyone in your family feeling loved and appreciated.